Rating – 5/5 Stars
Martin Kettelhut’s Listen…Till You Disappear is an extremely practical, step-by-step guide to uncovering your limiting thoughts and beliefs, reconciling your past, connecting with others, and crafting your very own awesome future.
Martin Kettelhut, PhD
Spoiler alert – I went to graduate school with Martin Kettelhut at Temple University. We were very, very close until the later 90s, when we lost touch.
Then in the way of social media, he showed up one day on my LinkedIn “People You May Know” list. Like me, Dr. Kettelhut chose a path outside of academia. To date, he is an extremely successful executive coach who has co-founded two companies. His focus today is on listening as the key to innovation. Check out his website – Listening is the Key.
Mindfulness and Listening
Dr. Kettelhut focuses on meditation, on internal listening and journaling, as a key to self-understanding and success. He draws from many traditions, including Western Philosophy, Eastern Philosophy, and Yoga to create a very simple, yet highly sophisticated approach to mindfulness and success.
Basically, you refine and deepen your internal listening, which helps refine and deepen your external listening, which helps refine and deepen your communication skills. This then leads to more clarity around what you really want and how to get it.
Getting through the noise in our heads and in the world, getting past our own internal voices and the competing advice we get from outside, is not so easy. Dr. Kettelhut doesn’t pretend that it is, which is refreshing. But he does promise that if we are willing to put in some effort, we will have a better life.
Listen…Till You Disappear is a practical guide. In the course of the book there are 32 exercises that are aptly named, “Listen Exercises”. They start simply, with basic mindfulness meditation,
Simply notice all of the thought and feelings moving around inside of you. …Stay in the mode of observing these thoughts and sensations, rather than becoming involved with them, until you witness them subsiding and are left in deep peace with yourself.
There are very practical exercises, like de-cluttering your calendar, and more complex exercises that involve recognizing and releasing expectations and finding allies among friends.
Every exercise is journaled. Towards the end of the book, you refine prior answers based on new information and continue to refine your beliefs, expectations, and agreements.
The Techné of Listening – Do the Work
Basically, this is a workbook. Listen…Till You Disappear is about the techné of listening, the work. You can read the book without doing the work, but that would be silly and short-sighted.
Finally, we have a guide to meditation that speaks to the Western analytical mind. Martin Kettelhut pulls together many meditative traditions along with some contemporary neuroscience and personal stories from his own life and his clients’ lives, to prove that this works.
Even if you only do a third of these exercises, you will benefit. But I say, trust Dr. Kettelhut’s knowledge and experience. And trust me.
Do this work and your life will transform for the better!